Be Yourself

It says that people rarely change. Well, we sometimes do, for the better or worse, through the experience we had with others and things.

An experience can either build or destroy you, mostly depending on your interpretation of it.

Nevertheless, some events can be devastating; making you questions your values and beliefs.

If your trust is broken by those you truly valued, especially after recovering from a similar event from the past, it hurts really bad, bringing back all the past emotions. Giving your trust (first) may not be something you can afford anytime soon. If you are honest and sincere, and the information you shared to build relationship was used against you later on, it’s a hard pill to swallow, and such event can sometimes make you to have second thoughts on opening up and sharing information with anyone.

Trust, is the most precious yet most vulnerable thing in the world.

Apologies can be made and things can be done to attempt to "offset" a negative experience. As much as you want to forgive, the experience is a lingering memory that leaves a bad taste in your mouth. Especially for those who still have the courage to be who they are, experiencing violation on trust, honesty and sharing will not be easy on them, and will in turn, challenge their belief system in the long run.

Many have lost themselves under peer and social pressure, and they never went back to who they really were originally. I was sad to witness such tragedy happened to those I knew of growing up, people I went to school with, and colleagues I worked with. We shouldn't judge either: everyone is fighting a battle we know nothing about.

If you are someone who is sincere, honest, wholehearted, takes initiatives and has a can-do attitude, you have great potential in life. If you have always been remembered as a sincere, honest, and wholehearted individual by most people you crossed path with, never let go of these characters. Others might try hard to imitate you but turn out awkwardly. If taking initiatives and have a can-do attitude is who you are, don't give them up just because others failed to value you. If you are open, honest, and share to help others, and they later used it against you, wrongdoing is on them.

If you give your trust

but

others choose to break it,

They

Lose

You

If you changed your characters simply because others have wronged you, you will lose a big time and will regret it later on. Remember, others' doings will only reflect on themselves, not on you.

On the other hand, You want to build your reputation in a good way. Strategize your dealing with people and things, is what you can do on your end going forward.

You have the ability to heal and forgive, but you won't forget. Do not blame others: it was your choice to give trust (first) and no one is liable for your experience or feeling but you. Do not be dishearten either: you only need to do one thing: Keep being who you are, and embrace others around you.

Endlessly dwelling on what went wrong won't give you any inner peace. It will only drain you, leading you nowhere. When you notice a negative feeling, it usually follows a thought of doubt, worry, unworthiness, fear, or whatever it might be. When you feel that, Take a step back, Change your focus, and Make a choice. Everything in life, good or bad, is an experience and happens to you for a reason. Let go, learn, and grow. Law of attraction is real and like energy attracts. How you feel inside will show on your outside, which determines your future and fate.

Lastly ...

Trust Yourself:

You Are Awesome

For Always Being

Who You Are

Remember,

Always Love Yourself

Take Pride

In Your Achievements

Be

Brave

And

Stay

Strong

Disclaimer:

The views and opinions expressed in this article are those of the author's. Any examples, dialogues and stories used within this article are imaginary: they do not describe any real-world individuals or organizations. Assumptions made within this article do not necessarily represent author's opinions. The information contained on this article is not legal advice, and is intended solely to provide general guidance on matters of interest for the personal use of the reader, who accepts full responsibility for its use.

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